Chastity has been around since the times of Arthur and the knights of the round table. In medieval times, knights would be away for months and even years fighting wars overseas. Being men, they contrived devices to stop their wives from being led astray whilst they were away. These were chastity devices that ensured the individual abstained from sex. Wind forward the centuries from medieval times to modern day and you will find male chastity is now much more common than female chastity.
What does Male Chastity mean Today?
Modern male chastity is considered a kink or fetish. It is a means by which a partner can control the submissive partner by delaying and even denying them sexual release. The submissive wears a chastity device, usually a cage that locks the male member in a restricted position so that they cannot arouse themselves. They cannot touch their male member and most devices are shaped so they will not allow male arousal to take place. Most cages are locked in place and the dominant partner controls the key and therefore the length of time the sub remains chastised/locked with no means of self-gratification. The time spent on the wearer varies and there are multiple advantages for wearing them for various periods of time.
Why is Male Chastity a Part of Forced Feminization?
A niche of crossdressing is sissification or being a sissy maid where chastity is often incorporated. As a part of forced feminization a partner or ‘mistress’ will train a ‘sissy’ to perform all the duties of a sissy maid. Being a sissy is a total role/gender reversal. Often Alpha males want a release from the gender norms they comply with in their everyday, pressurized life. So for some it is role play but there are others who are ‘turned on’ by the total handing over of control to a dominant partner (wife, girlfriend, mistress or dominatrix). A sissy maid does not control anything, they simply do as they are told. In time sissification can lead to a turnaround whereby the male sissy, through conditioning is now free to fulfill and obey ever want and need of the mistress and/or partner.
There are services for training sissies which will start with the dressing as and disciplines of a sissy. This may include mundane tasks like cleaning the house, washing dishes etc whilst dressed and acting as a maid. But in more extreme cases this will also include learning how to be more feminine including regular shaving of the body and of course, being emasculated whilst locked in a chastity device. This is to discourage any form of male arousal and masculinity. Many practicing male chastity as part of their forced feminization talk of the pleasure they derive from being humiliated in this way.
Do you Need a Dominant Partner to Practice Male Chastity?
No, there are many crossdressers who practise male chastity in order to feel more feminine. Like many parts of crossdressing it can take discipline to get it right and so the introduction of a consenting dominant partner/mistress or ‘key holder’ will take your forced feminization to another level. As discussed, an important part of the device is the lock mechanism. By being locked in and someone else controlling the key and therefore when you may be released is the opposite of the day to day role most males fulfill. This can be freeing, erotic, mentally stimulating and can even lead to deeper sexual relations with your partner. You learn that other parts of the body and senses can be stimulated in different ways rather than just a traditional missionary position. Where you practise ‘solo’ there are even services that can control the lock device via an app in case you do not have a partner or do not think they may be receptive. So, in the same way a mistress will determine the length of time a sissy has their sexual freedom controlled, so too can this be done via an app for someone who is single.
Which Male Chastity Device is Best for Me?
This all depends on a number of factors like how extreme you wish to be with your sissification, if you will have a mistress or dominant partner as a keyholder and if you will be wearing the device 24/7 or not. Many of the best metal and polycarbonate chastity devices with locks are a bit too noticeable under guy clothes for everyday wear. So, it may be necessary if you have to go out of the house to work to wear a smaller silicone device during the day and then change into your metal lock device at night. Similarly, many beginners will start with one of the simple rubber chastity devices which are easier to use in the early stages, before changing up to a full-on locking device.
If you are thinking of adding sissification and male chastity into your crossdressing lifestyle, we advise you to do your research and take baby steps. Start with a rubber or pliable chastity device to start. You will soon discover if the feelings you have from being restrained are feminizing and pleasurable. Most find it incredibly pleasurable. Then you can begin transitioning to a lockable device and even think about introducing a keyholder to completely control your male chastity.
Make sure you purchase a good quality device. There are many Chinese fake’s sold in the U.S.A. that are cheap in price and quality. Given that the device is enclosing your ‘crown jewels’ make sure it is safe. We have heard of people cutting themselves on cheap fake devices!
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