Stepping out in public while dressed en femme can be an exciting and affirming experience, but it’s also important to prioritize your safety. Unfortunately, the world isn’t always as accepting as we’d like it to be, and taking precautions can help you feel more confident and secure. Here are some key tips to keep in mind when presenting as your most authentic self in public.
Carry Personal Safety Devices
Having a way to protect yourself in case of an emergency is crucial. Consider carrying:
- Pepper spray – A great tool for self-defense if used correctly and legally in your area.
- Personal safety alarms – These small devices emit a loud sound when activated, drawing attention and potentially scaring off threats.
Walk with a Friend or Group
If possible, avoid walking alone, especially in unfamiliar or poorly lit areas. Having another person with you, particularly someone who presents as masculine, can act as a deterrent to potential threats. Unfortunately, those who do not respect femininity often perceive masculinity as strong or intimidating.
Share Your Location & Plans
Before heading out, make sure someone you trust knows:
- Where you’re going
- Who you’ll be with
- What time you expect to be back
- That your location is turned on and shared with them via your phone
This way, someone will always be aware of your whereabouts in case of an emergency.
Stay Aware of Your Surroundings
One of the most important safety measures is to remain alert:
- Avoid wearing headphones when walking alone, especially at night.
- Be mindful of people around you—notice if someone is following or behaving suspiciously.
Check your surroundings before unlocking a door or entering an elevator to ensure you’re not being followed.
Have an Escape Plan
In case you find yourself in a dangerous situation, knowing how to react quickly can make all the difference:
- If a car suddenly stops near you, run in the direction it came from to force it to turn around if it wants to follow.
- If someone is following you, avoid going straight home. Instead, head to a crowded, public place where you can seek help or confront them safely.
Pretend to Be on a Call
If you ever feel uncomfortable or unsafe, pick up your phone and pretend to call someone—or better yet, actually call a friend. Talking out loud lets potential threats know that someone is aware of your location, which can deter unwanted attention.
Take a Self-Defense Class
While the goal is always to avoid confrontation, knowing basic self-defense can help you:
- Stay calm under pressure
- Recognize escape opportunities
- React effectively if someone tries to grab or attack you
Even learning simple techniques like breaking free from a wrist grab can boost your confidence and preparedness.
Trust Your Instincts
Your intuition is one of your best safety tools. If something doesn’t feel right, listen to that gut feeling. Don’t be afraid to leave an area, ask for help, or change your plans if necessary.
Your safety is the top priority when presenting en femme in public. By taking these precautions, you can enjoy your time with more confidence and peace of mind. Always stay aware, plan ahead, and don’t hesitate to reach out to friends or allies when needed. Stay safe and stay fabulous!
Have you ever felt unsafe while dressed in public? What are some safety tips you follow when going out en femme? We’d love to know what you think! Email us at[email protected] or message us on our Facebook page. And be sure to check out more great tips and articles on our blog!