When dressing en femme there are certain habits that can make you appear less attractive. Whether you want to make a good first impression or just feel more confident, it’s important to be aware of how you’re perceived by others. From the way you walk to the way you communicate, certain habits can give off an unappealing vibe. Luckily, with a few small changes, you can avoid these less attractive habits and present yourself in a more positive light. In this article, we’ll discuss a few habits that make you less attractive and how you can avoid them.
Poor hand care
Your hands are an often-overlooked aspect of self-care. However, they’re also one of the most important. If you have dry, cracked hands, they may not seem very appealing. They may also be quite painful. If you work in a job that requires you to use your hands often, dry hands can be especially problematic. Be sure to regularly apply hand cream to prevent this. Make sure it has a high amount of moisturizing ingredients, such as shea butter, coconut oil, or jojoba oil. Another aspect of hand care that often gets neglected are nails. Dirty and untrimmed nails are a no go! When properly done, nails have the power to feminize your hands by making them appear slimmer. Be sure to keep your nails trimmed and polished when you are going to dress. If possible we recommend getting a manicure to keep those cuticles in shape. When getting a manicure is not possible, try press on nails. They are easy to apply with a little nail glue and can make your hands go from drab to fab!
Dry lips
Lips are one of the first things you notice about a person so you want them to appear full and inviting. If your lips are dry and flakey, applying products like lipstick will be difficult. Not only are dry lips painful, but products like lipstick and gloss will not sit well. To avoid dry lips, you should regularly exfoliate them and apply a lip balm or vaseline regularly. This can be done throughout the day. If you like to wear lipstick, you should always apply a lip balm beforehand. This will help to keep your lips hydrated and make your lipstick last longer. Be sure to hydrate throughout the day as dehydration makes your lips prone to dryness!
Poor table manners
This may seem obvious, but table manners are an important part of passing as female. If you’re eating out at a restaurant, you want to be aware of your table manners so you don’t come across as unrefined. If you are a male to female crossdresser, and want to pass as a lady you need to have good table manners. Whether you are eating in or dining out, sit up straight, use your napkin, don’t reach across the table, avoid slurping soup, chewing with your mouth open, and speaking with food in your mouth. Treat others with respect and always say please and thank you. If you keep these tips in mind there is no doubt you will pass as a lady!
Not being able to walk in your fem shoes
If you’re a crossdresser who wears heels, you may be aware of how difficult it can be to walk in them. A common mistake is going out not knowing how to walk in your heels. If you cannot walk in your heels you will appear uncoordinated, less confident and clumsy. This can distort your posture and even make your legs look shorter if you are bending them too much while walking. We recommend putting on a pair of heels and practicing walking around in your home until you are comfortable and confident in them. If you can’t walk properly in your heels, you may want to consider opting for a shorter heel and working your way up. Platform shoes and wedges are perfect for beginners as they offer a lot of support through distributing the weight across the sole of the shoe. It is important to wear the appropriate footwear for the occasion you may be going to. Heels are not always appropriate, so be sure to choose your shoes wisely!
Lack of self-care
Self-care is important for everyone, but is especially important for those wanting to appear more feminine. The beauty standards for women are notoriously high. They are constantly judged on their appearance, anywhere from their body hair and makeup to their clothes. Although this stereotype can be extremely harmful and should not hold true, it sets a precedent for females to take care of themselves. Male to female crossdressers should take good care of themselves and regularly practice self-care. There is an entire spectrum of what is considered self-care. Self-care can include, but is not limited to, exercise, meditation, reading, eating healthy, having a skin care routine, keeping up with personal hygiene, and getting enough sleep. If you are a crossdresser who likes to wear a lot of makeup we recommend having a solid skin care routine. If you don’t have one and are curious on where to start, read an article called “Skincare Tips for a Glowing Complexion at Any Age” by Glamour Boutique. Taking good care of yourself will likely make you appear more attractive. You’ll also feel more confident if you regularly practice self-care.
Conclusion
When dressing en femme certain habits can make you seem less feminine and attractive. Keeping up with hand and lip care can go a long way in making you appear more put together. Poor table manners come across as unrefined so be sure to follow our tips on how to correct them. Choose an appropriate heel size that you can walk in so you appear in control and confident. Lastly, be sure to practice self-care regularly! Your mind and body are one and by taking good care of it you will feel and look great!
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